Being a Mom is hard work. Whether you’re a working mom, a stay at home mom, a mom of one or a mom of six. They all have their challenges and we all get to the end of some days feeling like we are running on empty. If we have too many days, or weeks, or months like that without doing anything to recharge ourselves, then it becomes harder to give to our families. You can’t pour from an empty cup, as the expression goes.
So here are some ideas of how you can recharge the batteries. Some are things you can do even if you have kids in tow, and others are blissful, just-for-me moments. Some are short little moments, and others are push-the-boat-out recharging sessions. In short, there should be at least one thing you can aim to do for yourself, no matter what your situation.
1. A long hot shower As moms most of our showers are short, and chaperoned. Try to grab a long, solo, hot one once a week while the kids are in bed, or while they have breakfast with your partner …
2. Bath with face mask … or if you have the time, fill that tub, pop on a face mask and let the hot water ease away all the tensions of the day.
3. Journalling time I only recently began journalling and it is a great way to unwind. Even writing a line a day, or your top 3 gratitude moments, can release some of that lovely oxytocin.
4. Deep breathing Most of us shallow breath most of the day. Even just a minute or two of deep belly breathing can help resort some calm to your busy brain.
5. Meditate If you have more than a couple of minutes, why not try meditating? Even 5 minutes a day can help destress. If you don’t want to fly solo, download an app and listen to a guided meditation.
6. Bake I love to bake. There is something very satisfying about creating something delicious from raw ingredients. The measuring, sifting and mixing can be very soothing.
7. Read Fiction or non fiction. It doesn’t really matter. Escape to another world. Even if it is only in 5 minute intervals …
8. Listen to an audiobook … or if you find it hard to sit down with a physical book, why not try listening to an audiobook while driving or pottering about doing other things.
9. Sleep Sleep deprivation makes everything SO MUCH HARDER. If you’re able to grab a nap while your kids nap, do it. The housework can wait. Or else try trading off lie ins with your partner at the weekend.
10. Go for a walk Fresh air makes everything better. If you can grab a solo walk in nature, by the sea or through a wood, even better. If you can only grab a walk while pushing the buggy through town, it’s still fresh air and it’s still better than staying inside all day.
11. Manicure / Pedicure There’s nothing like a little treat to put a smile on your face, especially a nice pedicure where you get a lovely massage as part of it. Bliss.
12. Massage Speaking of, if you can make time for a full body massage, do it. I had one recently after a rough few weeks sleep with the baby, and it made a world of difference to my mood!
13. Exercise Exercise gives you endorphins, Endorphins make you happy. #namethatmovie.
14. Listen to music Sometimes just turning on your favourite tunes and singing along while you’re driving can be enough to put a smile on your face …
15. Dance party … and sometimes you need to turn it up and go full on dance party! Kids actually love this so include them too! Watching them strut their stuff will 100% put a smile on your face.
16. Get your hair done Nothing like a colour refresh or even just a nice blow dry to make you feel less like a bedraggled mama, and more like a member of human society.
17. Watch a movie Go to the cinema with a girlfriend, your partner, or just watch something you’ve been dying to see at home on netflix with yummy take out.
18. Drink nice tea or coffee If you like tea, buy some really nice, fancy tea. I love Two Leaves, and a Bud and try enjoy a few minutes with a hot (!) cup one or twice a week. Can be paired with deep breathing, music listening or book reading 😉
19. Drink nice wine … or if you prefer, crack open that bottle of red and enjoy!
20. Light a candle Scents can have a serious impact on our mood, so if you have a favourite candle, stop saving it for a special occasion. Light it and enjoy (just make sure it’s out of reach of little fingers!).
21. Fresh flowers Treat yourself to some fresh blooms. I adore flowers and having a fresh bunch on my kitchen table puts a smile on my face every time I see them. They don’t have to cost the earth either. I recently bought a bunch of peonies from Aldi for €3.99 and they’ve lasted the whole week!
22. Colouring Adult colouring books have become big news and it’s no wonder. The process is very meditative and soothing. Embrace your inner kid and have some fun with pencils, markers or paints.
23. Calligraphy Another meditative art that is growing in popularity. Learn from youtube videos or just google some letters and practice in a notebook.
24. Yoga As moms we lift and carry our kids a lot. We ask a lot of our bodies, especially our backs. A few gentle stretches can do wonders to release tension in the body.
25. Date night And last but not least! Book a babysitter and head out with your partner! Dinner if you can swing it or lunch if your kids aren’t great for others at bedtime. Even an hour to go for a walk and get an ice cream, so you can actually talk to each other and finish a sentence, can do wonders for everyone’s state of mind.
Hopefully a few things on the list appeal to you, so go ahead and make some time for yourself!